I believe there is no secret that being a kinky person or a member of the wider BDSM community has its challenges. Most people, even family members, can’t understand it and more times than not you are getting judged or look with that sight. The one, that depending who you are it may be one of discus or of creepiness, like being a BDSMer the same time means you are sexually immoral and with no boundaries.
Therapy at times can be awkward when it comes to sex and sexuality even for a vanilla person. It’s not uncommon for clients to think that their therapist finds them disgusting, boring, pathetic, you name it. Which for most good therapists is far from the truth.
Being a BDSMer who struggles with their mental health or facing life challenges can easily turn all the feelings above to 11.
‘’I’m worried my therapist may start staring at me like a creep if I share about my BDSM play.
She may feel discuss when hearing about me being a male submissive!
He may think I’m easy and sexually available to anyone just because I like kink!’’
Those are worries that any member of the BDSM community may have when they start considering therapy.
Therapy is a safe space where our clients can share their deepest and, sometimes, darkest secrets and experiences.
BDSM is part of your identity as a human being and although, society right now finds it hard to understand it (maybe they never will) as you walk the path to recovery and healing, I believe you need to feel safe to bring this part of you in your sessions with your therapist and talk about it, if you wish, without being judged.